Oral Sex Is Sinful And Must Be Avoided In Christian Marriage
Oral sex is the improper use of the body and would therefore be wrong in all circumstances, including marriage. One meaning of the word "to sanctify" is "to put to the use intended by God." We ought not to violate the intended use or function of any body part, which is the temple of God, nor violate the dignity and sanctity of another person. However in this our last message on oral sex; we are going to be discussing the below topic on the facts why oral sex is sinful and reason why oral sex must be avoided in christian marriage
LIST OF ORAL SEX TOPIC TO BE DISCUS
- Is Oral Sex Sinful Or Acceptable In Christian Marriage.
- The Danger Practice Of Oral Sex In Christian Marriage.
- The Scriptural Condemnation Of Oral Sex In Christian Marriage.
- Oral Sex Is Sinful And Must Be Avoided In Christian Marriage.
There is a fine line between godly sexual relationship (between spouses) and perverted sexual activity. The first one is out of love; the last one is out of lust. Love is of God, lust is of the carnal mind and of Satan.
God is the one who made sex and designed it to be enjoyed in the manner it was intended. Any different way is sexual perversion. Like anything whose proper function is abused will cause problems. Oral sex is not sexual intercourse in the sense of the word, but a sexual act, and it would fall under the Bible's prohibition of "porneia”; sexual impurity.
If oral sex is replacing genital sex it will be even more of an abomination unto the Lord. God has clearly designed male and female bodies for genital sexual relations with each other, not for oral and anal sex. Married couples should beware of substituting something else for that which God had designed at Creation.
We must consider God's creativity as our guide and principle that the male genital is designed for the female genital, just as food is for the stomach (1 Corinthian 6:13). In this light the practice of oral and anal sex cannot be said to conform with God's design and should be regarded as deviations from His plan, which are sinful.
Oral sex is unholy and sin of lust, and Satan will be right there to reinforce this sinful behavior. Therefore practicing oral sex may eventually lead to further exploring of sexual release through other ways of perverted sex, i.e. sex toys, vibrators, internet sex, fantasy, sex videos, masturbation, pornography etc.
This in turn will bring the person into sexual bondage through which sex becomes an addictive drive, and may reach compulsive behavioral levels. The craving for perverted sex will never be satisfied. Once arrived at the point for the need to satisfy the lust of their sexual drive one is trapped and will experience a vicious circle of an unsatisfied sexual relationship with their spouse; mutual love is gone and fleshly sex has taken over.
2 Corinthians 6:17... Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean [thing]; and I will receive you. Leviticus 10:10.. And that ye may put difference between holy and unholy, and between unclean and clean;
Agreement between spouses to participate in oral sex does not make it right and must be avoided. It only shows that both do agree to give in to the lust of the flesh and to unclean sexual activity.
There are unclean spirits associated with this act. Some of you may rather call this frigidity, but let me tell you friend, learn first what holiness is, and then we'll talk further. If Satan cannot destroy Christian marriages through divorce or adultery, he'll try to get through the backdoor of the Christian marriage, which is through the bedroom door.
Satan's intent is to destroy which is not so visible for the eye, but which is spiritual and involves man's soul. He comes with a host of unclean spirits and tries to attack in the core. Many Christian couples do not or will not recognize this, or they will not depart from their fleshly lusts.
As you can see, one has to make a choice whom to serve. Satan says: "Now, don't you talk about your sex life to anybody, it's none of their business." Why do you think he is saying this? So he will not be revealed... so he can stay and keep his domain. That is why oral sex is quiet in the Christian community.
Satan does not want to leave his territory. When oral sex in a Christian marriage is condoned the door is left wide open for other bizarre and unclean sexual activity, such as anal sex etc.
Ephesians 5:3-6... But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.
There is also another issue: Although God meant for people to enjoy the sexual act, He also had the purpose of "being fruitful and multiplying" in mind. Oral sex does not meet these criteria. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18...Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
You should be able to praise God in all situations and circumstances and I am convinced that this is impossible while practicing oral sex. This should tell us enough. The Lord says: Be Holy for I am Holy. Galatians 5:24... And those who are Christ's have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Strive to please the Lord, even in your sexual relationship with your spouse. Sacrifice your old self and its lusts.
JESUS CHRIST SACRIFICED HIS ALL, WHICH WAS PURE AND HOLY
1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 Furthermore then we beseech you, brethren, and exhort you by the Lord Jesus, that as ye have received of us how ye ought to walk and to please God, so ye would abound more and more. For ye know what commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:
That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth , despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us His Holy Spirit”
Ephesians 4:17-24 This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk , in the vanity of their mind, Having the understanding darkened , being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart: Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.
But ye have not so learned Christ; If so be that ye have heard Him, and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness”
As we dedicate our lives more and more to the Lord and sell out to Jesus Christ, it certainly will reflect on our relationship with others. If spouses share their intimacy with God in their marriage, it will soon affect their love toward each other, which includes also their sexual relationship. The Fruits of The Holy Spirit will become apparent in their marriage.
The closer we live to God the more beautiful and holy the relationship becomes between spouses. It becomes a foretaste of the heavenly joy, happiness and fulfillment, which is awaiting us in eternity with our Lord. Psalm 19:14... Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in Thy sight, O LORD, my Strength, and my Redeemer.
Quotation Below Is Taken From A Pamphlet By Rev. Robert J. Buschmiller:
- First, oral sex is not natural. It is contrary to natural law. If oral sex is OK, then are anal sex or nasal sex also OK? There must be some natural parameters to sexual expression. Otherwise, we have little reason not to permit homosexual activity or even sex between humans and animals. Something must be natural and therefore other things unnatural.
- Second, I have been asked to counsel over a hundred married couples about oral sex as foreplay. After some time of discernment, not one has maintained that oral sex was a true expression of love. The motivation behind oral sex is often lust. The spouse is not the focus of the sexual foreplay; rather, sexual stimulation is the focus. It could almost be said that one spouse is having sex with sex rather than with the other spouse. This focus on sex rather than on the spouse is a poison to love and marriage.
We have read and seen the evident that the practice of oral sex in christian marriage is a sin and must be avoided because marriage is not a criteria for annulling God's creativity. I will also advice whosoever that still doubt about the sinful act of oral sex in Christian marriage; should kindly pray over it for personal conviction.
And i pray that none of us shall miss our heavenly treasure due to ignorant. A man will reap only what he sows. If he sows in the field of the flesh, he will reap a harvest of corruption; but if his seed-ground is the Spirit, he will reap everlasting life (Galatians 6:7-8).